Fleabag – Or the story of a witty girl with a possible sex addiction

Bingewatched a show again. This time it was Amazon’s “Fleabag” and man, it gave me some feels at the end of it. Real feels. I got all emotional and teary-eyed.

The story of a dysfunctional 30 year old, laid bare for the world to see.

For anyone a bit messed up by life the writer of this series wants you to reassure her she is not alone. Set in London it is a touching lesson in the bizarre, crazy and irrational things Londoners will do for some control and stability in their lives.

So the story follows this girl around as she goes through live and tries to cope with the loss of her best friend Boo, the death of her mother, her more successful sister and her dad who is planning on marrying their godmother (played by Olivia Colman).

I laughed at how pretentious her new step mother was and had a good chuckle about the travelling statue that depicted some boobs (and was apparently a symbol of how females are objectified by males in today’s culture)


I think our Fleabag did most of the objectifying though, dating very good looking men (shallow too), trying to use sex to fill that void that nothing else can fill. I loved her drunken antics and the screaming through the post-pox scene got me in tears.

At the end of the first season we see her in a pit of despair – she’s fucked her best girl’s boyfriend and she committed suicide, she was the reason why her sister’s marriage started breaking apart (after her sister believed her husband rather than her about who came on to whom at a birthday party) and she lost her boyfriend (that I don’t think she loved that much). Her cafe was sinking under a mountain of debt and there was no-one there to lend a hand.

Second season shows her rising from her ashes like the Phoenix, getting her life in order, exercising, eating well and making sure her cafe is doing well. It all goes downhill when she meets her family again at an engagement dinner her new stepmom throws and she sees how everyone else is doing. Her sister is still with the scumbag husband, her new step-mom is still making underhanded comments and there’s a new person at the table – the priest that will marry them both.

So begins a new season and as we follow her around we see how hard she’s trying to mend the relationship with her family and how she becomes her own person and how she wonderfully falls in love with a man who can never love her back.

The end is amazing. She has (consensual) sex with the priest, against all rules, and the attraction is real. She is smiling, he is smiling, the chemistry is there.screen0001.jpg

She convinces her sister to go after the hottie from Finland and drop her creeper husband and they manage to have a wedding free of a lot of drama (just a breakup).


What really got me though were the last 3 minutes of the show when the two of them sit down and Fleabag tells the priest something that she’s probably never told anyone before (at least in truth). She told him she loves him and while he accepts her confession – he turns her down and chooses his calling instead. Even if he loves her as well. His entire life would have been broken had he chosen to be with her and the resentment would have doomed the relationship.

I feel so sad that it’s over!


Soooo, I did some research as to why Catholic priests can’t marry and found this:

  • priestly celibacy allows priests time and energy to focus completely on their flock and to emulate Jesus, who was unmarried, more faithfully.
  • According to the Bible, Jesus was an unmarried virgin. In the Bible, Jesus is often likened to a bridegroom whose bride is the Church.
  • Many of the early martyrs and church fathers emulated his life of chastity.
  • by the Middle Ages, many priests treated their calling as a “family business,” giving preference to their sons for plum positions and trying to edge out the competition to protect their legacy. Because of this practice, the Church formally banned the practice of priests marrying about 1,000 years ago

Some critics say that mandatory priestly celibacy should go.

“In the Catholic church, we have 2,000 years’ history of its impossibility for many people,” said A.W. Richard Sipe, a sociologist and former Benedictine monk who has been married for 43 years. “Lots of people just can’t do it.”

There are other problems with barring priests from marriage, Sipe said.

“The Catholic priesthood, in a sense, fosters a psychosexual immaturity by imposing celibacy,” Sipe told LiveScience. That could make it hard for priests to offer wise and mature counsel on those issues to their parishioners, he said.

I wish the priest would have converted to a sub-section of Catholicism which still allows you to do your duty to God but allows you to have a wife on the side. Orthodox priests can marry! Why shouldn’t Catholic ones?


Fleabag is a great show and what makes it amazing is the clever writing but also the performance of Phoebe Waller-Bridge. Constantly taking to the camera has a Peep Show quality, where we get to hear what she really thinks of someone before hearing what she actually says to them – two very different things. She can do amazing things with those actor’s friends, the raised eyebrow, the tiny grin, the upturned lip, the innocent wide-eyed look. Crucially she has charm in spades, without it the show would become a Peep Show with women instead of men, a sort of Women Behaving Badly.

Every part of this TV shows production was so well done. Fantastic acting, editing, photography if that’s the right word.

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