Call me by your name end speech from the dad

Coming out as gay is pretty hard to do. Crushing on the guy that’s working with your father is even worse. So I’ve watched the “Call me by your name” movie (2017) to complete my Oscar list from 2017 and I was pretty moved by the talk the dad had with his son at the end of the affair.
I think if most parents could show such acceptance and understanding when their kids are coming out as gay – it would make the world a better place and you would see fewer homeless teenagers.


You two had a nice friendship. You’re too smart not to know how rare, how special what you two had was.
Oliver was Oliver. Because it was him. Because it was me.
Oliver may be very intelligent but…
He was more than intelligent.

What you two had, had everything and nothing to do with intelligence. He was good. You’re both lucky to have found each other because you, too, are good…
I think he was better than… I think he was better than me.
I’m sure he’d say the same thing about you.
Yeah. He’d say the same thing.
It flatters you both. And when you least expect it, nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot.


Just remember, I am here. Right now, you may not wanna feel anything, maybe you never wanted to feel anything. And maybe it’s not to me you’d want to speak about these things but feel something you obviously did.

Look, you had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away. Pray their sons land on their feet, but I am not such a parent.

We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, that we go bankrupt by the age of 30. And have less to offer, each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything.

What a waste.
Have I spoken out of turn? And I’ll say one more thing, it’ll clear the air.
I may have come close but I never had what you two have. Something always held me back or stood in the way.

How you live your life is your business.

Just remember, our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once, and before you know it, your heart’s worn out. And as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it much less wants to come near it.

Right now, there’s sorrow, pain. Don’t kill it, and with it, the joy you felt.


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